The Good: twenty-seven years ago I walked down the aisle of Grace and Saint Peter’s Church towards the most beatific smile I have ever seen. I am so grateful. Married life being what it is, we are all going out tonight to celebrate the birth of our youngest, born one year (and two days) after our wedding day. No complaints. Time with family is precious. I try not to go on and on about my marriage because I distinctly remember what it was like to be lonely and struggling with feelings that my worth was defined only by “having a man.” It was bleak. I keep in mind that it’s one thing to acknowledge one’s happiness but it’s quite another to wave it around in a way that feels to others like a slap in the face. I do think that my outsized feelings of gratitude are influenced by surviving a disastrous first marriage and then - - somehow - - finding an enduring love after all that suffering. It’s not magic and it’s certainly not because I was “deserving” in any way. Everyone ...
I am so tired. I have written about this so many times, most recently in February of this year. A Poolside View , Village Green/Town², February 12, 2026 I feel like CA has long wondered why people don’t use the Talbott Springs Pool the way that the largely white, more or less affluent suburban folks were always expected to use them when Columbia was established. Or, to be less pointed, I feel as though they are operating on expectations and assumptions that may be counterproductive to a solution to this problem today. And here we go again. Columbia Association board mulls trying to save money by converting pool into splash park , Kiersten Hacker, Baltimore Sun CA uses the term “low foot traffic.” I don’t doubt that they have counted. What I would like to see is a look at the numbers that show all the Columbia Villages by income level. And then I would like the see the most monetary investment in the poorest areas and the cost-cutting initiatives in the most affluent areas.* Why? ...