Thursday, August 28, 2025

Cast Aside Thoughts and Prayers


 


The violence that we are inflicting on our children, both here and abroad, is so reprehensible and morally shameful.

No child should be shot while praying. Or shot at all.

How can the United States rapidly decrease its VIOLENCE FOOTPRINT?

That's the question we should be asking, answering, and implementing solutions around in our legislative halls, Oval Office, pews, corporate suites, homes, and educational institutions.

May we pray with our action.

BE LOVE

Bernice A. King

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King, whose childhood memories include the massacre of little girls in the 16th Street Baptist Church bombing and the brutal assassination of her own father, speaks from painful experience. Notice how she says:

“The violence we are inflicting on our children, both here and abroad…”

 - - because she knows and acknowledges that they are all our children. No exceptions, no omissions, no carve-outs for those we don’t care about or place value upon. They are all our children and we are responsible. 

Our love and our prayer, King says, must be action. 

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The following reference is sadly becoming my equivalent to The Onion’s “ ‘No Way To Prevent This,’ Says Only Nation Where This Regularly Happens” article.  It is written from the viewpoint of a teacher required to participate in an active shooter drill at school.

Final Thoughts

This is the world I’m giving my daughter. A world of mass shooters and death unprepared, where school and church, mall and workplace are all potential pits of blood and bodies. What kind of a parent am I? How can I simply pack her into a car and drop her off when I know I can do nothing to protect her?


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"Everything we don't address in society lands in a teacher’s lap." Nelba Márquez-Greene, LMFT

Marquez-Greene founded the AnaGraceProject “…as a response to the tragedy that took her daughter’s life in Sandy Hook, CT on 12/14/12.”



Promoting love, community and connection family
for every child and family.

At The Ana Grace Project, we know that communities are healthier and safer when we:

1) Value relationships and connection -> reducing social isolation
2) Teach tools for empathy, self regulation and self care
3) Move, play and create
4) Respect diversity
5) Provide help, hope and information
6) Promote acts of service

The "Love Wins" movement of The Ana Grace Project recognizes that all children/families have stories and every story has value. We believe that all children and families can succeed with proper supports - and healthy relational networks are essential. Through our partner schools, professional development and music/arts initiatives - The Ana Grace Project reaches thousands of children, families and providers in education, medicine, mental health/social services and the private sector.

Love wins. It also saves lives.

You’ll notice there’s no reference to “thoughts and prayers” there. That’s because they are passive. 

And love is not. Love is an active verb.


Wednesday, August 27, 2025

The New Housing Trend



This week I learned that it is possible to talk about the shortage of housing without having the whole world crash down on you. Really. It’s easy once you know the secret.

Thanks to all the kids and families who joined the Conservancy at Belmont last weekend to combat the fairy housing shortage. With natural materials that our volunteers gathered, little ones planned and built their fairy village in the pine forest. Now we just need patience and a quiet dark night for the fairies to choose their abodes!



Yes, there it is: a fairy housing shortage. You can relax now.  No one is going to come along and ask what color the fairies are or demand that the fairy children go to someone else’s school or live in someone else’s neighborhood. 

It’s a perfectly lovely and playful experience - - immersed in nature and imagination. The children who participated probably have a strong concept of home and that everyone needs one. Why not fairies?

Today: building fairy houses. Tomorrow? Plan Howard Academy.

Applications Now Open for PlanHoward Academy Fall 2025


The Academy is an award-winning planning course designed by the Department of Planning and Zoning that educates residents on how the planning and land development process works. The free, five-week course includes in-class instruction, hands-on learning exercises and take-home materials. Taught by professional planners and legal experts, the Academy provides residents with a thought provoking, interactive curriculum focused on the underpinnings of land development in Howard County.

Yes, it says “hands-on learning exercises” but somehow I don’t think you’ll get to make Fairy Houses. Still…perhaps there’s an adult equivalent. I’m all for hands-on learning. 

Interested? Apply here. The deadline to apply is Sunday, September 7th at 11:59 pm.  Don’t put it off til the last minute, or you just might turn into a pumpkin. 


Images from Woodlark Blog


Tuesday, August 26, 2025

No Wait





I moved to Columbia in 1999 and one of the first lessons I learned was that there was no point in trying to go out to dinner on Friday nights. Everyone in Howard County had the same idea. Local restaurants at the time did not take reservations. If you risked it, you would be on a wait list. Wait, wait, wait. 

Doing this with kids (or in uncomfortable shoes) was a nightmare. Light-up coasters provided no consolation. Staying home was the better option. 

Since then the number and variety of restaurants in our area has increased dramatically. This is a purely anecdotal observation. I cannot quote you exact figures. But I feel like we reached a point where there were enough options to ameliorate the Friday night dilemma.

COVID wreaked havoc on the food service industry everywhere. Some local restaurants weren’t able to overcome the health and financial challenges. All the while, locals were agitating for less restrictions, more restaurants being open, more opportunities for them to “get back to normal.”

This fascination persists. Howard County remains excited about going out to eat and perpetually abuzz with any news of the opening of new restaurants.

I saw this post on the Howard County reddit this week:

How do all these restaurants survive? What's your favorite?

I have been living here for a year now and just flabbergasted by how many chains and restaurants are here and just wonder how they all survive?

My response: 

They don’t all survive, sadly. COVID took a bunch of them. I think we may see another wave of closures due to 1) job loss in the civil service sector and 2) persecution/disappearing of nonwhite restaurant workers. If there are places you love dearly, support them and talk them up!

People who have lost their jobs can’t afford to go out to eat and restaurants whose workers are being kidnapped off the street can’t continue to operate.

The perfect storm, eh?

If the goal is to support local business economies across the country, what is happening now is not it. If the goal is to make the most people suffer, these actions are, as they say, “chef’s kiss.”

What will be the long term impact? 


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Monday, August 25, 2025

Reliable Sources


 

It’s the first day of school in the Howard County School system. Though I haven’t been in school for a long time, and my own kids have graduated, there are still some traditions that feel familiar: picking out a first day of school outfit, perhaps, packing a lunch, riding a school bus, gathering on a playground. 

You hope you will have friends. You hope your teacher will like you. You hope that what you will be doing for the next school year is interesting or at least not so hard that you will be miserable. You may be looking forward to gym class more than math class. You may come to school drawn to music and the arts. You may be looking forward to the sweet relief of knowing you will have breakfast and lunch every day.

Some things are very different. The current presidential administration is dismantling the Department of Education. Funding for schools is being withheld, and vital resources being used to manipulate how states  educate their children. Our students are going back to schools which are, at the very least, struggling with a million uncertainties. 

It’s not just uncertainty, it’s fear. Students need adult role models and mentors who accept them and support them. This is more than an issue of emotional wellbeing; it’s deeply connected to academic progress. Now that national government is overtly targeting schools, teachers, and librarians for accepting people and ideas which have now been declared unacceptable - - how will that change the educational environment in schools where, in  addition to being overworked, the adults around them are also afraid? Can fearful adults function confidently as reliable and trustworthy educators?

Another big change is the way that AI and ChatGPT are challenging what it means to learn and create authentically. Young people receive a steady flow of messages online that ChatGPT will make schoolwork easier. Yet those messages don’t include the truth that AI is fallible and routinely turns out answers with errors. They also don’t reveal that using AI instead of reading the book or writing the report shortchanges your brain and compromises your learning. 

You may receive credit for turning in an assignment but you walk away with nothing of lasting benefit for yourself. 

I came away from my years of schooling with the knowledge that it was important to check your work, and equally important to assess the validity of your sources. A report on current events is going to look different if it is based on a tabloid newspaper instead of a fact-checked, well-researched article by a professional journalist, for instance. Examining different sources, comparing information, forming ideas - - and being able to prove what you are putting forward - -  are not just about learning “content.”

All of those are crucial components of developing critical thinking skills. Whether you will eventually be college bound, choose a trade, or work in the service industry, you need critical thinking skills to make good life choices, improve along your career path, and participate in democracy. 

If you want to learn and grow you need reliable sources. By now you know I’m not just talking about The Reader's Guide to Periodical Literature. If schools are stripped of adequate funding they become unreliable as sources of student support. If teachers are stripped of the autonomy to accept and champion all students they become unreliable as sources of student learning. 

If public school education itself depends on AI/ChatGPT as a content delivery mode then it becomes unreliable as a source for developing critical thinkers and nurturing active participants in a healthy democracy.

None of this is happening by chance.

If you are deeply committed to public education this is a difficult time. The things we believe in, that we have worked towards all our lives, are under attack. We don’t know what that will mean for the future. It’s a horrible image to consider on the first day of school. Yet, it is the truth. 

But it is not the only truth. 

In our schools and in many others across the country there will also be successes, and compassion, and the deep commitment to facilitate, challenge, and inspire. And in many homes parents will provide care, teach empathy, and encourage divergent thinking and intellectual freedom. 

Every success is like a flower pushing its way through the cracks in a sidewalk. The blooming of children will not be stopped, the work of teachers cannot be suppressed, the power of education cannot be quenched.

Celebrate every success. 


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Sunday, August 24, 2025

The Blaze in the Night

 




First, the good news: the house was unoccupied. You need to know that before I post the photo.


Photo shared on Howard County Department of Fire and Rescue Services Facebook page


And here’s the post:

Howard County Department of Fire and Rescue Services:

Yesterday at approximately 10:00 p.m. firefighters responded to the 3100 block of Saint Charles Place, Ellicott City. Units arrived to find heavy fire throughout the structure. The house is located in a wooded area so crews additionally worked to extinguish surrounding trees and brush.                             

The house was unoccupied. There were no reported injuries to firefighters. Crews will remain on scene for an extended time for searches and overhaul.

Fire investigators from the Office of the Fire Marshal have started their investigation into the cause and origin of the fire. We received mutual aid from Baltimore County and Carroll County.

Something about Saint Charles Place rang a bell and I remembered vaguely a house that was for sale years ago. I fell in love with it with the kind of wishful thinking that keeps you from acknowledging that your fantasy house is too large to keep clean. 

Dream Home Ellicott City: Modern Design at 3173 Saint Charles Place, Ellicott City Patch, Brandie Jefferson 

I enjoyed the fantasy of turning it into an arts school and performance space. That’s what imagination is for, after all. I daydreamed, I bought a lottery ticket. Time passed. I forgot all about it.

When I saw the report today I immediately wondered if this was the house. I don’t know. I did some digging around and discovered two things.

1. Most of the houses on Saint Charles Place look nothing like my dream house. I’d love to understand the big picture of how that neighborhood was developed.

2. Saint Charles Place as a residential neighborhood is connected to another fire which occurred in 1911 and did a great deal of damage to St. Charles College, a Roman Catholic seminary. The ruins of that fire are called the Terra Maria Ruins and exist, from what I gather, as a sort of park.

Again, I have no way of knowing if the house in question is the particular one that caught my fancy back in 2013. The news of the fire dredged up those memories and piqued my curiosity once again.

Still, no matter whose house it is, it is sad news. And it looks like a very large fire that took a supplemented force to subdue it. I’m grateful for the work of the firefighters and relieved that no one was in the house.


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Saturday, August 23, 2025

The Last Saturday


Here we are again. The last Saturday before school starts.
 
Temperatures will be moderate, although humidity will be high and the pollen count is extra high. You can’t have everything, I suppose. Many families will be busy with back to school activities this weekend but there still may be room for a bit of fun around town. 

There are quite a few food-oriented events today: 

Kupcakes & Company in Elkridge is throwing a 15 year birthday celebration.

Celia’s Cuban Cuisine is having a Salsa Bachata Day party, which is just as much about music and dancing as is it about food. 

A Home of Our Own Howard is holding a restaurant day fundraiser at Jason’s to support their programming.

And of course there are the usual Farmers’ Markets in Clarksville and Ellicott City.

Head over to Savage Mill for the Family Plena Workshop  with the amazing folks from Cultura Plenera.

Make some music with the Columbia Pro Cantare at their Summer Sing Along.

Enjoy a program of big band swing music with the Patuxent Jazz Band.

If a movie is more your speed, you can catch The Princess Bride this evening at The Win Bin.

The usual disclaimer: this is only a sampling. Take a look at your Facebook Events section and the Visit Howard County events listing for more. The Baltimore Banner has been running a weekly “what to do this weekend” article for Howard County readers and, over on Instagram, The Columbia Mom has a pretty comprehensive weekend list. 

My listings are notoriously weak on sports, “night life”, and alcohol-centric venues. So…just because you don’t see it here doesn’t mean it isn’t happening. On any given weekend there’s just about something for everyone in our community. 

Whether you find that thought exciting or exhausting - - at least it’s available. Opportunities abound.


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Friday, August 22, 2025

F ³: Lunch Break Blues


 

Gosh, I’d like to write about something humorous today. 

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Wryly humorous: a teacher posted that she would need to take time off to have a filling repaired and that the dental receptionist asked, “can’t you just pop over on your lunch break?” 

If you are a teacher you will feel this viscerally.

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Speaking of school lunches, what do you pack for someone who doesn’t have anough time to eat one? I am running out of ideas. 

There is much bemoaning of the tendency of children to be picky eaters. And it’s not wrong. I have eaten lunch daily with hundreds of children and can attest that they can be…particular. But so can adults, although we don’t talk much about that.

So you don’t have time to eat and you are, as an adult, pretty clear on what you do or don’t want to eat. And is is, frankly, limited. Lunch at work is not when you want to be encouraged to try new foods. 

What’s for lunch?

The trend towards grazing has made it easier to pack a variety of small snacks instead of the traditional sandwich. This can be extremely helpful for kids and adults. A little bit of this and that can strike a balance between fun and healthy. 

However, let’s not assume that most of the folks who pack the lunches are the Pinterest/Instagram-certified-type. Luckily most adults are not being judged by their coworkers on the cuteness of their lunch box.

For that matter, many adults I know would be horrified to open their lunch at work to reveal smiley face finger sandwiches, artistically carved veggies and a funfetti squeezy yogurt. Don’t even get me started on cute Happy Notes. My teacher spouse would be mortified.

Actually, I’d be thrilled to get a lunch like this - - at least once - - but that may be because I have never truly reached adulthood. Give me a Happy Note, stickers even. No glitter, please.

I eat lunch alone for the most part these days and I’m not sad about that. I gave at the office. After years and years of eating with students I have had every possible lunchroom experience you can name and am still smarting from the rage of the child who did not get a maraschino cherry in her cup of fruit cocktail. 

I am happy to a pack a lunch for someone else. If only I could find a variety of appealing, affordable items that can and will be consumed easily and are still somehow a healthy part of a balanced diet. 

I read yesterday that good food tastes like love. Everyone needs that, I think. Imagine how much good just that one thing could do for your day. Or someone else’s. 

Ideas? Send them my way.


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