Wednesday, April 13, 2022

Caffeine’s Revenge, Plus: Links



I will not drink iced coffee after three pm ever again…Rough night.

Some dribs and drabs for you this morning:

HoCoGov has announced the addition of beer to Wine in the Woods and already someone has suggested the monicker “Beer in the Bushes”. This alliteration thing - - we just can’t escape it. 

The County Executive has an announcement/press event scheduled about Camp Ilchester with members of the Girl Scouts and various electeds at the George Howard Building today at 11 am. You can read the press release on Delegate Courtney Watson’s Facebook page. I’m pretty excited about this one.

In just the past several days, two local musicians have released music videos. Have a look and listen.

Sarah Beth Driver, Letters from Mars

Jay Money Hackett, Remember

I’ll be writing more about these two in the near future.

If you are looking for something serious, this post from 2020 about the partisan nature of local board of education races still feels painfully relevant: 

Here’s the Context

Facebook memories reminded me that this is the three-year anniversary of someone accusing me of being a member of “the radical left”. Good times. The best part is that I can’t even remember who it was.

If you simply want to start your day feeling more human, you can’t do better than to immerse yourself in some recent posts THREW Mikes EyEz. This one in particular got to me this morning. 

Nada, Mike Hartley 


Tuesday, April 12, 2022

Dead Can Dance?


It seems as though everyone is in a frenzy to get back to normal. Even skeletons.




Here’s the Facebook event page for Skeletons in the Park: Medical Goth Dance Party, Picnic, and Photoshoot, May  21,2022, 12-6 pm.

“Skeletons in the Park”

Oh, did I forget to mention? It’s in Howard County: 8020 Baltimore National Pike, Ellicott City.

How do I know this? Twitter, of course. I came across a tweet lamenting the fact that Baltimore has no Goth clubs. Apparently there was one called the Orpheus but:

They turned it into a hip hop club/sports bar. I do goth picnic events tho around Baltimore and surrounding areas. My friend has sort of taken them over and the next ones are in Ellicott city I think.

Yes, friends, that’s when I just had to go look for myself. Wait, what is “Medical Goth”? I’m still digging around on Google to flesh that out but, in the meantime, here’s this cool shop on Etsy:

Medical Oddity Goth

Oh, my.

What started out as a young woman’s lament about Baltimore…

how come all ur cities have goth clubs. baltimore doesn't have a goth club. we're like so goth on paper wtf like edgar allen poe/ravens, ouija board was named here, uuuh f@#$ idk we need a goth club

…ended up with a picnic in Ellicott City. Go figure.

I started to ask if my readers had ever gone to a picnic with a theme. But then it occurred to me - - that’s pretty much what the Maryland RennFest is. Now I’m imagining a Medical Goth/RennFest mashup and I think perhaps I should go back to bed.

Out of curiosity: do you think Columbia/HoCo needs a Goth club?

Monday, April 11, 2022

Seeing Through Different Eyes

 



Did you read yesterday’s post? Thanks! Now go read this one:

Does History Repeat Itself? A HoCo Police Facebook post response, Marlena Jareaux, Howard County Lynching Truth and Reconciliation.

I thought my take on this was pretty good. Until I read Ms. Jareaux’s piece. It is rooted in knowledge and perspective that I just don’t have. She sees things I didn’t see, and is able to put them in the perspective of Howard County history.

If you didn’t read yesterday’s blog, take a minute now to get caught up. 

Police Reports

But don’t miss the chance to get a fuller picture by reading Ms. Jareaux’s piece. Think about how they are different. Back in English class the teacher might have asked you to compare and contrast. A good History/Social Studies teacher would get a discussion going on differing perspectives and where they come from. 

I’ll simply ask: what do you think


To support the work of Howard County Lynching Truth and Reconciliation, you can make a donation by texting HOCOBLKHISTORYRESEARCH to number 44-321. Or use the donation pop-up form at their website.


Sunday, April 10, 2022

Police Reports


 

It is hard to say whether the recent frenzy around the following story is due to the serious nature of the crime or to the desire of local social media counts to run with a story which is good for an inordinate amount of clicks.

Man charged with offering teen girls money for sex…Jessica Kronzer, WTOP 

There is something that happens to people when they show up at the Howard County Police Department Facebook page to comment on the police report. Or perhaps the police report tends to draw a certain kind of person: the kind that truly enjoy “rubbernecking” at a crime scene and passing judgment. 

I almost titled this piece, “The Ten People You Meet While Reading the HCPD Crime Report.”

The first group are known as the “God Bless Our Brave Police Officers” folks. That’s their framework for looking at these sorts of things, and they are committed to it. I imagine the police department finds this heartening.

The next folks are the “Oh, this is just awful!” contingent. They’re not really judging anyone in particular. They’re expressing a heartfelt sentiment just as they might if they came across something terrible on the street.

Right behind those are the “lock them up and throw away the key” people. The percentage of those in relationship to the whole varies according to the nature of the crime.

Then there are the “we never had crime when I first moved here” people. They also show up as “Columbia/HoCo is really going downhill.” This particular story drew a “Howard County had no crime until Columbia was created” comment. 

I mustn’t forget the people who are anxious to show that they know how to look up the accuseds’ police records and use them to jump to conclusions about any particular criminal case. Perhaps they fancy themselves to be amateur detectives.

This specific story also elicited uncharitable comments about “the homeless” and “the retarded” (their terminology, not mine.)

Often there are racist dog whistles mixed in. Yes, right here in Columbia/HoCo.  I didn’t see any in this case but  I may have missed them. I am highly disappointed by the social media account that ran a stock photo of a Black man’s hands in handcuffs to announce an arrest made in the case. 

Clickbait, am I right?

I have saved for last the responses that make me angry every time: the victim blamers. These are almost always reserved for incidents that are sexual in nature. In this case they looked at a story about a man soliciting girls for sex and said, “Why weren’t those girls in school at nine am?” This is absolutely victim blaming. Whether these young women had a good excuse or a bad excuse, or even no excuse, they don’t deserve to be accosted with solicitations for sex. Period. 

And we wonder why victims hesitate to come forward.

In cases that are sexual in nature there is always that one person convinced that the victim “made it up.” This story drew one of those as well.

I’m anxious to state that an arrest in this matter is not the end of this story. Our legal system gives a defendant the presumption of innocence. There is likely more to learn. I don’t know what that would be nor am I an amateur detective.

I’m left with an underlying feeling of disgust at the kind of bloodthirsty roiling of the waters that occurs in response to crime reports. I think that news/social media outlets contribute to this seeming frenzy by pushing out as many stories as they can while a story is “hot” in order to boost their social media “traffic”. This is not to blame this on the media alone. Each of us is responsible in how we read and assess information and in how we respond. 

If we allow ourselves to be caught up on the wave of each big new story without using our critical thinking skills and putting information in perspective, then we merely become part of the big wave. Have I ever made this mistake? Probably. 

I’ve probably allowed my emotions to color my assessments and then jumped to conclusions. I try not to. 

Yesterday I spied someone who is a reader of this blog attempting to talk some sense into a victim-blamer in a firm but still charitable way. It made me smile. I am glad there are people like that in our community. I’d love to see more of them responding to police reports.






Saturday, April 9, 2022

Benched

 

 

Howard County Rec and Parks is promoting an event which rather appeals to me.


Ladies Day Out - Morning Hike and Nature Journaling (18 yrs +)

Where: Robinson Nature Center, Columbia

When: Saturday, May 7, 2022 at 9 am - 11:30 am

Cost: $15.00

Come relax. Tune in to the forest! Park Ranger Erin Wilder leads a comfortably paced hike and guided nature-journaling activities that help to ground and center you. Learn from a Park Ranger and Environmental Educator about the springtime plants and wildlife along the trail while you enjoy one another’s company and the chance to sketch or write about the natural wonders around you. Journals and sketching materials are provided.

To learn more, and to register: Morning Hike and Nature Journaling

Being in nature sounds wonderful. Journaling in nature sounds very cool. It’s just…the hiking. 

I've never really been a hiker. And now two years in questionable health haven’t made that any better. I’m not complaining. I’m realizing that for me, the ideal hiking experience would be a lovely natural setting with a whole lot of park benches. 

We begin in a field of daffodils where you’ll pause to begin your day’s journaling with an inspiring writing  prompt and this lovely and comfortable bench.

After a short walk (about the length of parking and walking into the grocery) we’ll stop amongst the trees to look, listen, and center ourselves as we write about our experiences in nature supported by a sturdy and beautifully constructed bench.

We’ll proceed down the pathway (less than half a block) observing native plants while making our way to a peaceful stream which is flanked by a group of benches. Take your time as you connect with the sensory experience and capture it in your journal.

After an easy downhill stroll we will conclude at the Gathering Place to reflect on our experiences and share refreshments. (You guessed it: on benches.)

Yes, I’m laughing at myself in a way. I realize that, while acknowledging my limitations, I don’t necessarily need to wallow in them. Right now I imagine my capacity for a “hike” looks more like making the full circuit at a mini-golf course. If there were benches, of course. But a little challenge outside my comfort zone might not be amiss. And I do love to write.

The Rec and Parks event promises to be “a comfortably paced hike.” Who knows? It might be just the thing. Or perhaps I should be on the lookout for a Bench to Bench Nature Event.

To learn more about the Robinson Nature Center: Robinson Foundation.


Friday, April 8, 2022

Joy Made Visible

 



The most important thing I could possibly write about today is the confirmation of Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson to the Supreme Court. It is also a task for which I am wholly unqualified.

I grew up in a white world that was white by design, although I didn’t know it. I had one Black teacher in elementary school. One Black student in my fifth grade class. No Black families in my neighborhood. I don’t think there were any Black shop owners or employees at the neighborhood shops. No Black librarians at the local library. 

I had absolutely no idea that this was not normal, that it was contrived, and that my safe, protected suburban bubble was built on the exclusion of others.

It has become more and more apparent in recent years that some people in this country are very sad to have lost that safe protected bubble and they think they have a right to it. On the other hand, they are extremely uncomfortable with any kind of journalistic reporting or educational curriculum which allows the truth of exclusion and injustice to be seen. Their protected bubble has room for better homes, better schools, better opportunities and better health care but it does not have room for the truth.

Of course it is wrong to cling to one’s privilege by leveraging its power to harm and disenfranchise others. It’s also poisonous to everyone involved and, dare I say, it’s unAmerican. At least, it’s not who we *say* we are.

There is no good reason that there has never been a Black woman on the Supreme Court. There are a million bad ones. And, my observation of the Black women I follow on Twitter tells me that Black women are supremely tired of that. No, not tired.

Exhausted. Anguished. Demoralized. Heartbroken. Enraged.

One of the late Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s most well known quotes is this:

Women belong in all places where decisions are being made. It shouldn't be that women are the exception.

As much as I agree with the sentiment, I find it telling that so many people can read that and that an image of a Black woman does not come to mind. If your world is white, your friends and neighbors are white, your church and coworkers are white - - if your protective bubble is white - - then that is your default. You don’t even imagine how it could be different. 

This is not a chance to shake our heads sadly and say “oh, that’s too bad.” It’s absolutely at the root of significant ongoing palpable harm to Black Americans: in schools and neighborhoods, in the workplace, at the hands of the police, in employment and healthcare, in our legal system. As unqualified as I feel to write about it, this is by far the most important issue I will address in my lifetime.

I’ve used the following quote from Marian Wright Edelman in other posts:



You can’t be what you can’t see. - - Marian Wright Edelman, founder and President emerita of the Children’s Defense Fund.

Every place we look in our lives, every single moment, is an opportunity for the world to be transformed by inclusion. We can wrestle with our own shortcomings and actively seek those opportunities. Or we can stay in our safe and protected bubbles and pretend that some people are just invisible to us. Or that someone else will fix it.

Remember: what feels safe to us is violence to others. 

I’m going to close by amending Justice Ginsberg’s quote to remind myself and my readers that today is a good day to believe and advocate for this:

Black Women belong in all places where decisions are being made. It shouldn't be that Black women are the exception.

What a joyful day it was to observe the confirmation of future Justice Ketanji Brown Jackson. Let’s make it our mission to invite, support, and work for more days like that.



Photo from Baltimore Sun, Jacquelyn Martin/AP Photo



Thursday, April 7, 2022

Just a Regular Day


 

Guess what?


Not even twenty four hours has passed and here’s another alliterative announcement! 

The Bags Will Fly May 21st! for BAGS AND BEERS! the Howard County Autism Society's (HCAS') 2nd Annual Cornhole Tournament fundraiser* on May 21, Noon-5pm at Mary's Land Farm in Ellicott City, MD.  Visit our website  to  Register, Sponsor and Donate!

We now have “Brews and Bulbs” and “Bags and Beers”. And how could I forget Wine in the Woods? I wonder if that’s where the nifty names trend started?

Since it’s Thursday, I was waiting around to read the Columbia Flier in case there was an important story to write about. Silly me. Did you know that Tuesday, April 5th, was Caramel Day?

Well, I suppose the annual CA elections at the back of the issue may be helpful to you if you don’t know much about the candidates. And if your village has a contested election. The only endorsement I’m going to make in this year’s CA elections is that, if you have the opportunity to vote: VOTE.

Enough said.

On a positive note, last night Wilde Lake High School hosted Howard County Schools first ever Shred Fest, featuring guitar ensembles from Long Reach, Mount Hebron, Oakland Mills, River Hill, and Wilde Lake High Schools. You’ve probably heard of Band Festivals, Choral Festivals and String-a-Palooza, but you might not know that students can study guitar at the high school level and participate in ensemble playing, as well. Last night was the first time that students in these programs had the opportunity to hear each other play and receive feedback from an adjudicator. 

I can’t tell you how grateful I am that their event was not even remotely alliterative.





* Proceeds from this event support the HCAS mission of advocacy and public awareness in our community.