There seems to be some confusion as to the overall message of yesterday's post. Let me restate it: bullies have to learn how to be bullies. Someone has to be modeling this behavior for them. They are learning that this is acceptable behavior.
The title of the post,"Where The Killers Come From". was an (as yet uncredited) reference to this post. "The Bully Side", by Tom Coale at HCR. He states,
"You don't need to tell me if you're being mean to other kids at school
and I don't want to know. I do want you to know that if you are, you
are killing someone else's child, (emphasis mine) and it will live with you for the rest
of your life."
I have recently learned that programs to combat bullying often fall on deaf ears because those who are bullies, don't perceive themselves to be bullies, so they think it doesn't apply to them. This would seem to be borne out by some responses yesterday over at TO2C.
Where do bullies come from? in short: they've got to be taught.