Skip to main content

Posts

Showing posts from 2025

Location, Lake-ation

  At long last, the day had come. The office of the doctors I see most frequently was officially open at the Lakefront. The website says the building, officially named the South Lake Medical Office Building, looks like this. I suspect this is not a photograph but something more aspirational. An artist’s rendering? I came early to allow extra time to find a place to park, as directed by the office. And then I didn’t really know where to park. There’s a lot in front of the building that doesn’t really feel connected to the building. And, from that lot, it isn’t exactly easy to figure out where the entrance of the building is. Knowing that piece of information is a good thing when deciding where to park.  Still, I chose a spot and found my way up to the building. It isn’t entirely self-explanatory but I can’t say I was taking my life in my hands, either. As I neared the building I discovered a car ramp for car drop-offs, and a ramp that led to parking under the building. Ohh…well...

The Scanner

  I’ve just come from a rather disconcerting discussion on Reddit about an incident at the Mall in Columbia.  It begins with a photo and a question,  What happened at the Mall? One of the responses begins,  My mother, who perpetually listens to the Howard County police scanner, says… It reminded me of the folks who urge everyone in their neighborhood to install Ring cameras to “help the police.” These are the people who live in fear in suburban neighborhoods because they just know they saw someone who didn’t belong there. The comment that convinced me to write this post was this one, because I think I know where it is heading. Do you think the bus stops have helped or hindered all businesses including malls? I wonder who takes the bus stop if they are coming to be a consumer and if they are I wonder what percentage ? My response: Are you suggesting that people who can afford cars are better consumers? Or that people who use transit are innately undesirable? I could b...

Losing Sight of Freedom

Dear Senator Alsobrooks: I want my vote back. I didn’t expect to wake up to this news as I scanned Bluesky this morning, but: there it was.  Here are the 28 Dem Senators who voted to advance the first federal ban on trans athletes & a federal definition of sex that would make trans & intersex people non-existent: Angela Alsobrooks (MD), Tammy Baldwin (WI), Richard Blumenthal (CT), Lisa Blunt Rochester (DE), Chris Coons (DE)… I noticed a comment: Angela Alsobrooks, grand marshal of the 50th baltimore pride parade Really?  Really??? Yup. Image from Angela Alsobrooks social media accounts The photo above was accompanied by these words: I was so honored to lead Baltimore's 50th Pride Parade as Grand Marshal and celebrate with our community in love and appreciation for our LGBTQ neighbors. We must never lose sight that everyone deserves the freedom to be who they are and love who they love. I am livid.  When did Ms. Alsobrooks “lose sight that everyone deserves th...

On Monday We Mourn

I woke up to the news about Rob Reiner and his wife Michele Singer. On any day of the year this would be tragic news. After the past few days it feels catastrophic. I've been rereading old blog posts looking for direction.  Two sentences are running through my head. What evil lurks in the hearts of men? It’s the guns. I’m sharing an old post from 2018 today because I’m horrified by how relevant it still feels and I’m almost embarrassed by my naïveté. There’s no mention here about the massive concentration of money which was always a key player in this process. When so much of what might be an agent for good is purchased and neutralized, my exhortation to vote feels…hollow.  The Dealers of Darkness , October 28, 2018 In order to take the country in a direction that any reasonable person would recognize to be wrong, it is necessary to take away their ability to see the truth. Our vision relies heavily on an access to light. And so light is what is systematically being taken awa...

Playing Fetch

 “Stop trying to make ‘fetch’ happen” is a sentence I learned purely from being on the internet. It was quite a while before I learned its context.  To give you an idea how pervasive it is, I present here a Google search which I performed just moments ago:  Search: stop try Google Suggestions stop try stop trying to make fetch happen stop trying to be god stop trying to be god lyrics stop trying to make fetch happen meme stop trying to make fetch happen gif stop trying to make fetch happen meme generator stop trying stop trying to make fetch happen meme template stop trying to make fetch happen quote Not quite sure how God got in there but that’s another story altogether. I found myself contemplating this meme-able moment when I read a recent request on social media. Here are the relevant words: …live closer to that area but willing to travel to Columbia/HoCo… “Columbia/HoCo.” An actual sighting in the wild and I didn’t say it.  At some point on the blog I took to us...

A Santa Emergency

  Friends, there is an emergency. A Santa emergency. It says so right here. Payne Christmas Trees, Levering Avenue in Elkridge Apparently Santa is experiencing an emergency. I’ve done some research on the HoCoLocal scene and I think it may be because he is overworked. Or, possibly, overfed. Only a small sampling… Santa has been spreading good cheer all over town and twice on Sundays. But one can only hope he’ll have the good sense to steer clear of this mêlée. FREE SHOW featuring Radio Hero Band LIVE on stage! & The Biggest Christmas Party in Town — Again. And Yes, It's Still Absolute Chaos. Mark your calendars, because SantaCon 2025 at The Reckless Shepherd is coming in hot. This is the holiday throwdown where all the jolly maniacs, boozy elves, and unhinged Santas unite. Festive? Yes. Classy? Absolutely not. Fun? Hell yes. Now, there’s a quick way to get on the Naughty List!  Still, Santa is well known for getting along with everyone. Event at My Pet Store & More, ...

F ³: The Case of the Mysterious Bird

Places you expect to see an extremely tall bird: Sesame Street. Places you do not expect to see an extremely tall bird: the doctor’s office. I kid you not: this sculpture/statue is in the office of my ob/gyn group. I had stopped by with a question about the patient portal. Yes, I’m the crazy lady who asked for permission to photograph this. “Do you mind if I take a picture of your bird?” If you must know, my first thought upon encountering this unexpected creature was something like this. By now I’m convinced that I was put on this earth to see oddball connections.  But what I didn’t know what what kind of bird it was. Considering its location it seemed likely that it was a stork. After scrutinizing a number of photographs of storks I was not convinced.  So I asked a friend who I know to be knowledgeable about birds. The response I got did not solve my problem. Her answer? "Greater Skullpiercer" Wow. What a name. I went off to do some research. After quite some time I texted ...

Masks

  A high quality N95 mask can discourage the spread of airborne illnesses and filter particulates such as dust and environmental mold. Of course, universal vaccination against COVID, for instance, and eradication of mold from structures - - such as homes, schools, and workplaces - - are better.  A high quality N95 mask cannot protect you from breathing in CO2. It doesn’t work that way. You can’t even reduce the risk in any way. I think it goes without saying that there’s no vaccination to prevent carbon monoxide poisoning, either. You pretty much have two choices: eradicate the carbon monoxide or avoid the place where it is. Period. I was alarmed and upset when I learned that employees at the Savage library branch had been sickened seriously enough at work that they had to go to the emergency room for treatment. Carbon monoxide poisoning is no joke. People should not have to fear coming to their place of employment. And we want to think of libraries as safe spaces, right?...

The Lottery

  After several hours of struggling with mental tasks yesterday I made myself leave the house purely to recapture some sanity. I needed to pick up some cash from the bank machine and then I thought I’d buy a few lottery tickets.  I succumb to visions of big lottery wins about three or four times a year, largely when I have an intense desire to give to important causes. I don’t spend much. I don’t win. And, after a couple of weeks, the impulse abates.  This is the result of enormous privilege. My first lottery ticket purchases came when I was divorced with a young child, working two jobs, and over my head in credit card debt. My dreams were the desperate dreams of struggle. My fantasies were simply of releasing the fear of going under.  Today, though not wealthy, I have enough. Sure, we can all think of fun things to do with extra money. But  the fact that my biggest lottery dream these days is to become a philanthropist reflects a big change in my life circumsta...

Detour

Tidings  We want them to be good. Especially at this time of year. They aren’t always. Bad news never feels good but at this time of year it feels to me like an extra injustice.  Comfort  A place to stay when it’s cold. Food when you are hungry. Faithful carers when you are sick. Someone to listen if you are troubled.  Joy Experiences that lift your spirits. People who know and understand you. Beauty that fills you with a sense of wonder. An unexpected or lifechanging gift. Today’s blog brought to you by a simple announcement* from the United States Postal Service: 250 years of delivering joy It made me think about people and organizations in our community who deliver joy. How do I deliver joy? How could I do more of that? Maybe that’s why we’re all here, after all: to give, receive, and share comfort and joy.  What do we do when the tidings aren’t good? How do we - - bear with me - - turn the tide? Village Green/Town² Comments *It’s a free service called Info...

HoCoLocal: Three Little Stories

I just realized that I often use the term “HoCoLocal” but I don’t think I’ve ever credited it to the source. I’m pretty sure it came into common usage through the efforts of HoCoBlogs cofounder Jessie Newburn. Truth be told, “common usage” would be generous - - I don’t see it around much but I wish I did. I like it. ***** Today, gleaned from this morning’s search for all things HoCoLocal, are three small stories. 1. Crocheting to benefit those in need in Howard County , Megan Knight, WMAR-2 News (1 minute, 58 seconds) Maryland Crochet for Smiles, students at Atholton High School, image from WMAR-2 News They’ve have a website *, they’ve been in the Baltimore Sun , and now they’re on television! These high school students from Howard County are members of the group Maryland Crochet for Smiles. Members make things like blankets, sweaters, scarves and hats and give them to local charities, homeless shelters, foster homes and hospitals. The video is just long enough for you to take a deep b...

A Bad Human Instinct

  These words come from Laura McInerney, an education advocate and writer in the UK: My dad abhors any negative comments about immigrants. Asked him recently why he's so strong on it: 'Because we're always happy to take the rich and clever ones. Which means it's not about disliking immigrants. It's about disliking the poor and vulnerable. And that's a bad human instinct.' A bad human instinct. Those words struck me and gave a voice to the feelings of revulsion and despair I’ve been struggling with over the past several days. On December 4th the Howard County Police Department posted an announcement of a critical missing person. Members of our community showed up and turned the thread into a cesspit of the worst kind of racism and hate. It blows my mind that one of our county families was in crisis, searching for a vulnerable family member, and the first thing some people thought to do was to argue about his race. He doesn’t look white to me .  And that, my f...

In the Spirit of Giving

  The concert is for the kids. The concert is by the kids.  The Concert for Kids is back for 2025 with a blend of holiday music to get you excited for the winter season! This year the concert will feature the entire OM Performing Arts Department (Band, Choir, Guitar, Dance, Piano, Orchestra and Theatre), guest readers from WBAL Radio, and a visit from Santa! Photo credit Jonathan Edelson The Family Matinee is designed to keep our younger audience members entertained. With stories and a visit from Santa, your younger children will delight in the spirit and music of the holiday season. The Holiday Pops evening concert is an expanded version of the Family Matinee.  Filled with holiday readings by our friends from WBAL radio, as well as an expanded selection of holiday music, this concert is sure to fill you with joy.  All proceeds beyond our costs are donated directly to the WBAL Radio Kids Campaign. The concert benefits the Campaign:   Founded in 1983, the WBAL ...

F ³: Farewell Suzy Homemaker

I was going to write about something on the heavy side this morning but I just don’t have it in me. And maybe you don’t have it in you to read it today, either. I’m giving all of us a reprieve. ***** I’m relinquishing my Suzy Homemaker card.  Wednesday I offered the following in my Buy Nothing group: Gift: Iron and ironing board. I am handing in my Suzy Homemaker badge: I don’t iron anymore. Maybe you do? I do not remember when I bought this ironing board. I think I may own two irons but I don’t know where the other one is. To give you an idea of how frequently I iron, one day my husband opened a cabinet and said, astonished. “We own an iron???” ***** Once upon a time, in the last century, I lived in a center hall colonial in an old suburb where the mothers stayed home and the children all walked home from school each day to eat lunch. Our television was black and white and you put pennies in parking meters.  My parents had three daughters in an effort to produce one son. Aft...