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F ³: Me, Neither!

  What would happen if big business stopped bowing to bad government?  And what would have to happen to bring them to that choice? Here’s a social post from Danya Ruttenberg. She’s an American rabbi, editor, and author. An important, important part of how we are going to make any meaningful change -- to address the injustices of this current regime, and to address the deeper structural harms of the current system-- is through economic choices. Eventually (soon, I hope) we will need to consider slowdowns, refusals, a national strike.  But for now, the ask for this weekend by Black Voters Matter Fund and co-signed by T'ruah and goodness knows how many more orgs, is pretty easy, honestly: Say NO to big corporate spending.  Don’t buy anything from Target, Amazon or Home Depot this week.  Use the time and money to connect with those you love, and rediscover what matters. If you must shop, shop small, local, and invest in immigrant, Black, and Brown-owned businesses a...

The Curse of Blessings

  If they cut open people the way they do trees to count the rings, I suspect that the indications for this past year would show marked, even catastrophic, distress. A weird way to begin a Thanksgiving post, but…you know what I mean, right? I’ve been struggling lately with the concept of blessings. When we receive something we really needed or experience even more than we needed we often say we have been blessed. For many that is connected to a belief in divine intervention.  If that is true then what about all the folks who aren’t receiving what they really need or experiencing what it’s like to have more than they need? Are they not good enough for God to love them or care for their needs? This is beginning to feel too much like the poor children who see what Santa brings the affluent children and wonder why Santa looked at them and found them lacking.  I have no answer for that except that I know that blessings are  not about some folks being more deserving than ...

Need and Performance

  I’m in a couple of give-away sort of groups and I have mixed feelings about people posting something (especially food) by saying they want it to go to a needy family. That puts the responder in the position of publicly outing themselves to the group as being needy. This bugs me.  This is not mutual aid. No matter how well-intentioned, this practice comes across as an attempt at playing Lady Bountiful.  Why? Years ago I got into a bit of a kerfuffle because I objected to a (former) local blogger taking and sharing photos at a back-to-school giveaway event. My reasoning was that people turning out to receive school supplies were not automatically giving their consent to be publically identified. They deserved the respect of having their presence there - -  to support their children - - to be no one’s business but their own. Not everyone agreed with me, least of all that blogger.  It was a public event, therefore it could be covered. No thought, no nuance, no emp...

Market Research, Part 2

As I headed out of Clarksville Commons Saturday it occurred to me that I needed something from a hardware store and that I hadn’t been inside Kendall’s in quite some time.  Why not? I was right there.  In case you have never been, Kendall’s before Christmas is a delightful combination of mom and pop community hardware store around the edges (and the back) and Christmas goods in the middle. Need a screwdriver? No problem. You can also pick up some ornaments and a few stocking presents while you are at it.  When I walked in a young cashier greeted me and asked if I was looking for something in particular and I told her. She paused ringing up items for a second and gave me the aisle number. It was an auspicious beginning. I’m not a big fan of Christmas displays before Thanksgiving. Nevertheless, I felt as though I had walked into Kendall’s at the precise moment when everything had been set up to its best advantage and several customers were beginning to explore the aisles o...

Market Research

Despite the damp and gray weather conditions on Saturday, I headed out to the Thanksgiving Market at Clarksville Commons. After all, there are only a few more times this season to get my hands on one of these. I can’t show you how gorgeous it was because I scarfed the entire thing on my way home. However, I did have a back up plan for Sunday. I don’t know what Rob and Sons does during the off season but I am going to find out. (Imagine that last bit in all caps.) If you want to see why these baked goods keep coming up on the blog, check out his website to see where he’ll be selling for the rest of the season.  I had a nice chat with the proprietor of The Salvaged Stitch about my quest for a brightly colored “something” to house the new remote for our overhead light/ceiling fan in the bedroom. It is white. Our new comforter is mostly white. It has quickly become the invisible remote. She had several things that were almost-but-not-quite-right. After some back and forth I realized ...

Things I Didn’t Tell You: Library Edition

In case you have ever wondered how deep my commitment to the truth is, I present some excruciatingly honest revelations. 1. It’s true about the french fries.  2. While I didn’t find Downtown Library Regret, I did find one rather large block of Objection to one possible library in particular. I did not include it in my post because 1. It’s not regret, and 2. It wouldn’t be a public library with comprehensive community resources.  3. I am hearing (though I need to verify) that the same person who testified against prompt renovation at Oakland Mills High School because the new chart proved their needs were not dire is the same person who testified against funding for the new Downtown Library citing the dire needs of Oakland Mills High school.  Big, if true.  UPDATE: Not exactly true. OMHS is not named directly.  I can’t tell if this is an example of Schrodinger’s Public Funding or something more along the lines of Lewis Carroll’s rule from the Mad Hatter’s Tea Par...

Looking for a Few Good Events?

It’s Saturday and the formatting on the Facebook Events listing appears to have changed and it’s annoying me.  You now have your choice of two funhouse mirror views and they are both…mediocre. General Listing: Individual listing: Anyway, the above event is tomorrow, not today but it’s worth learning more about.  Hugsgiving Tasting Event Fundraiser  Where: The Common Kitchen - 12250 Clarksville Pike Clarksville, MD When: Sunday November 23, 2025 12:00-2:00pm $20 per person What: 2 hours of unlimited food and drink tastings Why: Raising funds for Free Mom Hugs IMPORTANT INFO: *Each ticket includes two hours (12-2pm) of unlimited tastings from our food hall vendors *Event Tasting Menu available on the event page under the discussion tab *Tasting menu is subject to change without notice *Ticket sales benefit Free Mom Hugs, a 501(3)(c) non-profit organization. *This event takes place indoors, and is therefore rain or shine *ALL TICKET SALES ARE FINAL Learn more about Free Mom...

F ³: Ceremonial Silliness

  It wasn’t all that long ago that I wrote about why we humans mark the beginnings of things by wielding a shovel or or an enormous pair of scissors.  Ceremonial , Village Green/Town², 6/20/2024 Perhaps it was the groundbreaking for a new Lakefront bandshell or the wall-breaking for  new patient facilities at the Johns Hopkins Howard County Medical Cente r   that set my imagination in motion. Why do we these things that are not really the things but are ritual references of the things? I think that archeologists looking back many years hence will be having a field day with us. Years ago I sang at a wedding where the priest accidentally turned too many pages and addressed the (startled) young couple with these words: For those baptized in Christ, life has not ended, but changed.  The big laugh of the day was the apology of the officiant who confessed he had turned to the funeral rite by mistake. I share this anecdote by way of suggesting that, if we are going ...

Thursday’s Top Five

  Someone in Columbia Hills* has reduced the concept of a treehouse to its most essential elements and I can’t tell if it’s adorable or creepy. I think it might need chicken legs. Question of the day for the cognoscenti: why is a place called Columbia Hills located in Ellicott City? The Howard County Department of Fire and Rescue Services is again recruiting adopters for fire hydrants.  A worthy endeavor. But, if they’re not going to let folks paint, decorate, and adorn them with googly eyes I’m not ready to jump at the opportunity. Yet. If you are old enough to remember the television game show Supermarket Sweep , you might be interested in the anniversary celebration for the Columbia Grocery Outlet in (vibrant) Wilde Lake. Check the image below for what they are planning for their big day: November 22nd. You can enter for a chance to win a 2-minute shopping spree!  A graduate of Centennial High School makes music on Saturday Night Live. I’m looking forward to learnin...

Downtown Library? No Regrets

  Tonight the County Council will be hearing testimony on moving forward with the Downtown Library. What can I say that I haven’t already said? I have been struggling mightily with this for weeks.  In a last-ditch effort, I went to Bluesky looking for inspiration. I searched the words “Downtown Library.” Here is a small portion of what I found. Other Downtown Library posts referenced community food pantries, workshops encouraging civic involvement, classes for children, presentations on legal issues, craft fairs, dinosaur displays, local history, access to computers, public restrooms, biking, public transit, workplace topics, human connection. Then I tried a little experiment. I searched the words “Downtown Library Regret.”  Nothing. Well, just about nothing. As I recall someone was deeply regretful about that second order of fries they ate before going to the Downtown Library. I tried it on Google, too. Very little Downtown Library regret.* There are two very important r...

Food-Wise

  “In your opinion, what do you think (food wise) Howard County needs more of?” It’s the sort of fun, speculative question that elicits all sorts of wishful responses.  And it’s just the kind of discussion suitable for a social media page created to support HoCo local restaurants. The question was asked three days ago and so far there are 393 responses. I just added one this morning. My husband would like a truly authentic Brit-style chip shop. I love questions like this. Don’t forget I spent many hours imagining fantasy re-uses for the former Columbia Flier building. My family knows me as the person who will discuss such things as, “if you could cast your family/friend group as the characters in the Muppets, who would they be?” I spend afternoons contemplating my future career as a philanthropist once I win the lottery. There’s no delight quite like envisioning who I could give that money to. We all have our dreams. Back to the question of the day: In your opinion,...

The Gifts That Reach Across

  It’s big local news. Everyone has already written about it. For example: Grammy and Oscar-winning singer Billie Eilish donates to Maryland climate leadership program , Adam Thompson, CBS News Musician Billie Eilish donates $11,000 to Howard County Conservancy climate program , Jess Nocera, Baltimore Banner The money will be used to support the Conservancy’s Youth Climate Institute. From their Facebook page: Building the next generation of climate leaders. The Youth Climate Institute educates and certifies the next generation of leaders on climate science, environmental justice and real world solutions. A program of The Howard County Conservancy It is Monday, November 17th and this story broke weeks ago. Why am I late on this? Because I wanted to focus on something that no one else was looking at. So, here goes. Do you remember this? In October of 2023 the Howard County Conservancy hosted a Climate Justice Concert.  Join us for the YCI Alumni Network Climate Justice Concert ...

Visibility

I’m getting a late start today. If I take the time to fully flesh out any of the ideas I have, I will miss the golden hour when people tend to read. And that means you won’t see it.  It’s a quandary.  On my mind this morning:  Disability Rights Activitst and Author Alice Wong Dies at 51 , Chloe Veltman, NPR My knowledge of Ms.Wong is solely from Twitter. I somehow got disconnected in my move to Bluesky. She’s not someone I would have met in real life nor come in contact with on Facebook unless I had known to look for her.  And that’s a loss. Her life was all about creating and supporting visibility for the disabled. She won a MacArthur grant in October of 2024 in recognition of her work, especially for  The Disability Visibility Project.  Increasing the political and cultural visibility of people with disabilities and catalyzing broader understandings of disability. Please take a moment to read the NPR piece if you can. Yesterday County Executive Calvin Bal...

The Oracle of the Cul de Sac

Once upon a time a wizard came to Columbia and caused a bit of a stir. I have lived here just long enough to have witnessed this and also to have forgotten the entire episode. A recent post on Bluesky jogged my memory. Screenshot from Bluesky Oh! I remember that. How could I forget? It was in Oakland Mills. It all began in 2014 when Oakland Mills residents Debbie and Roger Matherly came up with the idea to transform a dead tree in their front yard through the artistic talents of chainsaw artist Evelyn Mogren. Think of it as creative reuse.  Really, it was creative reuse and it also ran afoul of the architectural guidelines of the Oakland Mills Community Association. It was both at the same time. The homeowners appealed to the community for support. The Wizard even got his own Facebook account. Truly a hyperlocal tempest in a teapot. It was resolved with a lot of grace by the Oakland Mills Village Board. And now, more than ten years on, folks like Kimberly Ann Keyes can visit it. ...