Skip to main content

Sugar and Spice Lives On


 

One of the items that was lost in the great summer ceiling debacle was an old book from my childhood entitled Sugar and Spice: The ABC’s of Being a Girl, by Phyllis McGinley.  It was my sister’s book, but it made a deep impression on me. Some years back I bought my own copy from an online purveyor of used books, largely to see if it was as awful as I remembered.

It was. 





When I am eighteen or a little bit older

I’m going to wear earrings that hang to my shoulder.

I’ll feel like an empress 

I’ll walk like a queen

In high heels and earrings, when l am eighteen.

Something about this book left me with a feeling that there was some secret mystery about being a girl and that I was never, ever going to be on the inside of that secret. Over the years I realized that the worldview championed in this book wasn’t the be-all and end-all of who I could be. I didn’t have to fit this mold to be acceptable as a girl/teen/woman.

I had a choice. (Thank you, Women’s Lib/Feminist Movement.)

I had a flashback to those words this morning as I read:

A Columbia Firm is Saving Tween Darling Claire’s Jewelry from Extinction, Bria Overs, Baltimore Banner

A brief explanation of what’s happening here:

Ames Watson, headquartered in Columbia, is purchasing the intellectual property and “a significant number of stores” in North America for $104 million, according to a press release this month. It could be up to 950 retail locations, Fast Company reported Tuesday.

Writer Bria Overs pairs the nuts and bolts information of why Claire’s has been in financial trouble - -  along with the particulars of what Ames Watson hopes to do - - with some personal insight from a Claire’s shopper.

Courtney Fisher, a 22-year-old Morgan State University student, got her ears pierced at a Claire’s at age 13. It was “one of the most memorable experiences” of her life, she said.

Fisher, who grew up going to teen-focused stores like, Claire’s, Justice and Club Libby Lu, said losing the chain would be “disappointing.”

“I feel like it’s kind of unfortunate for young girls,” Fisher said. “They don’t really get to experience that as I did as a girl growing up. I feel like it’s a part of girlhood and developing into a young woman.”

There it was again. It may sound silly, but I was a bit startled. 

Sure, I’ve taken my daughters to Claire’s over the years. Im not suggesting that there’s anything inherently evil about it. In my personal opinion the worst part about it is all the mass produced junk that we keep putting out into the universe. That can’t be good for the long term health of the planet. 

But to hear a young woman say in 2025 that shopping at Claire’s was a valuable part of girlhood and developing into a young woman surprised me. Do people still think like that? I guess they do. And the people at Ames Watson thinks that Claire’s has a future, so they must be betting on consumers like Ms. Fisher.

And, to be honest, she has a choice to feel that way. It’s not a requirement.

Claire’s is a place to play dress up and try on different ways of appearing without any long term commitment. You can put on and take off a variety of looks with all the seriousness of considering Halloween costumes. It doesn’t need to define you if you don’t want it to.

As a place to experiment and just have fun I can see its attraction. As a component in developing womanhood…

I’m sorry. That still kind of gives me the creeps. 

What do you think?


Village Green/Town² Comments 



Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Getting Fresh

One of my favorite days in the Spring comes when this year’s list of Farmer’s Markets is released. That happened this week. New this year are markets in Old Ellicott City and the “Merriweather Market” which, according to the address, will be located here . I mistakenly thought at first glance that it was in the new-construction part of the Merriweather District. I find the name confusing considering its actual location. I’m going to guess that this market is an initiative of the Howard Hughes Corporation because the name seems chosen more for branding purposes than anything else.  Alas, the market in Maple Lawn is gone. The thread on the markets on the County Executive’s FB page will provide you with quite the education in who actually runs the Farmers Markets vs what people often think is going on. Short answer: they are not  chosen nor run by the county. Each market is an independent entity, sometimes started by community volunteers, other times supported by local businesses...

They Can Wait

This is not a typical Saturday post. That’s because, in my community, it’s not a typical Saturday.  Oakland Mills High School, after years of deferred repair, needs massive renovation. It’s pretty simple: when you don’t fix a problem it gets bigger. The school system itself said the the OMHS school building was  "no longer conducive to learning" back in 2018.  2018 .  But Thursday the Boad of Education voted to push it out of the lineup of important projects which will be given the go-ahead to proceed soonest.  In my opinion it’s a terrible decision and sets a dangerous precedent. To explain, here’s the advocacy letter I sent in support of Oakland Mills High School. I was rather proud of it. I am writing to ask you to proceed with needed renovation at Oakland Mills High School in the most timely and comprehensive manner humanly possible. I have read the letter sent to you by the Oakland Mills Community Association and I am in complete agreement. You are extremel...

What Kids Are Thinking

  It’s a Monday in February, and if you guessed that a lot of Howard County students have the new cell phone policy on their minds, you’d be right. It will mean big changes and it will be stressful, no matter how much good we hope it will do in the long run. But on this particular Monday cell phones might not be top of mind, as amazing as that seems. Some kids will go to school wondering if they or family members will be seized by ICE. Some will fear that their parents’ employment will be purged by the ongoing rampage of Elon Musk and his cronies through Federal Government. Some fear heightened and renewed racism as programs that supprted Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion are vilified and destroyed.  Some worry that it soon won’t be safe for them to use the bathroom in school anymore. It goes without saying that some kids fear going to school every day because of the prevalence of school shootings.  And look! Here’s something new to fear. That old hate group, Libs of TikTo...