Skip to main content

Holding a Sign


 

I don’t follow what Ye (Kanye West) says or does. The blatherings of Donald Trump have zero influence over me, either. So when they say ignorant and hateful things I pay them no mind. I wasn’t expecting  them to say anything of value anyway. 

But there’s another way to view this. My friends and neighbors who are Jewish are reeling from antisemitic slurs and threats in public discourse. When they look around for support, they hear nothing. Silence. 

It’s easy for me to deal with this by just scrolling on by while thinking, “That’s stupid and awful.”

No one is saying stupid and awful things about me based on my religion and religious heritage. I don’t even know what that would feel like. More importantly, I don’t view these recent statements through a lens of generational persecution and mass murder. To be Jewish is to carry with you not only the richness of the Jewish faith and culture but also the vivid recollection of the Holocaust and pogroms. When people start talking like Ye or Donald Trump it’s more than a bad moment on the internet.

If this kind of language is out there and nobody pushes back and rejects it, then others with similarly hateful views will see that as a sign. An invitation. I can get away with it, too. It’s not just about mean words. It’s about the demonization of people for their religion and it starts with speech and it progresses to ill-treatment, exclusion, and violence.

It begins with the attempt to normalize this very kind of hate speech.

History has shown over and over again that this is the kind of moment when we can’t be silent. If those of us who aren’t Jewish reject that kind of hate speech (not to mention outright threats) we have to be very, very vocal. We can’t assume our Jewish friends and neighbors know we support them. 

If we are silent, how will they know?

If I scan my Facebook thread over the last several days I see that I have posted about parenting, weird dreams, local events, and searching for the television remotes. Not one word denouncing the antisemitic words of Ye and Trump. Not a single post supporting my Jewish friends who are feeling threatened and maligned.

What’s my excuse? I just think they’ll know I care. Is that the best I can do? 

I know, in my heart of hearts, that there are many people who would come out to show solidarity if something bad happened to Jewish people in our community. They’d light candles, carry signs. They’d be there in a minute to make themselves visible against hate. 

What if we did that before something bad happened? What if we were out there making ourselves visible in support of our neighbors before someone took action? What would that look like?

I keep thinking of the signs people make in support of marathon runners. They stand along the route, encouraging them, hoping to bring a smile, to spur them on to the finish. These people turn out because they know that running long distances is a hard thing. Their presence along the route honors that. They don’t always know people in the race, either. Some of the sign makers and sign holders are there purely because they believe in the innate goodness of the runners.

Imagine that.

How would it feel to Jewish members of our community to know they weren’t alone, that they were valued and accepted and respected? What would proactive community support look like?

And what kind of effect would it have on the haters and small-minded bigots who are out there waiting to see which way the wind blows? It isn’t merely our Jewish friends waiting to see what we will do. It’s Ye, and Trump, and all the people who think like them who may very well be in your neighborhood or workplace. They’re waiting to see what we’ll do, too.

Why does it feel socially awkward to realize that we have to beat back hatred every single time and to take personal responsibility to do something about that? Why is it easier to assemble and carry signs after harm has been done? 

Do we need permission to love our neighbors? Do we feel that addressing these issues publicly breaks some kind of rule for social behavior? 

I don’t know, and I can speak only for myself.  One thing I do know is that I am seeing posts online from Jews who feel intensely vulnerable and for whom the silence is devastating.



Comments

Popular posts from this blog

Getting Fresh

One of my favorite days in the Spring comes when this year’s list of Farmer’s Markets is released. That happened this week. New this year are markets in Old Ellicott City and the “Merriweather Market” which, according to the address, will be located here . I mistakenly thought at first glance that it was in the new-construction part of the Merriweather District. I find the name confusing considering its actual location. I’m going to guess that this market is an initiative of the Howard Hughes Corporation because the name seems chosen more for branding purposes than anything else.  Alas, the market in Maple Lawn is gone. The thread on the markets on the County Executive’s FB page will provide you with quite the education in who actually runs the Farmers Markets vs what people often think is going on. Short answer: they are not  chosen nor run by the county. Each market is an independent entity, sometimes started by community volunteers, other times supported by local businesses...

They Can Wait

This is not a typical Saturday post. That’s because, in my community, it’s not a typical Saturday.  Oakland Mills High School, after years of deferred repair, needs massive renovation. It’s pretty simple: when you don’t fix a problem it gets bigger. The school system itself said the the OMHS school building was  "no longer conducive to learning" back in 2018.  2018 .  But Thursday the Boad of Education voted to push it out of the lineup of important projects which will be given the go-ahead to proceed soonest.  In my opinion it’s a terrible decision and sets a dangerous precedent. To explain, here’s the advocacy letter I sent in support of Oakland Mills High School. I was rather proud of it. I am writing to ask you to proceed with needed renovation at Oakland Mills High School in the most timely and comprehensive manner humanly possible. I have read the letter sent to you by the Oakland Mills Community Association and I am in complete agreement. You are extremel...

What Kids Are Thinking

  It’s a Monday in February, and if you guessed that a lot of Howard County students have the new cell phone policy on their minds, you’d be right. It will mean big changes and it will be stressful, no matter how much good we hope it will do in the long run. But on this particular Monday cell phones might not be top of mind, as amazing as that seems. Some kids will go to school wondering if they or family members will be seized by ICE. Some will fear that their parents’ employment will be purged by the ongoing rampage of Elon Musk and his cronies through Federal Government. Some fear heightened and renewed racism as programs that supprted Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion are vilified and destroyed.  Some worry that it soon won’t be safe for them to use the bathroom in school anymore. It goes without saying that some kids fear going to school every day because of the prevalence of school shootings.  And look! Here’s something new to fear. That old hate group, Libs of TikTo...